I'm doing terribly, terribly. I'm falling apart. I am so depressed and I can't stop binging. My stomach hurts, my teeth hurts, my head hurts.
I wish I could win the lottery.
I don't know why I am the way I am... there is a way out, but I just can't get there. This sucks.
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Mandy,
I've been there. You can get out of this. Remember that you are unique and special and beautiful. There are tough days... but there are good days too.
Keep it up.
Feel free to keep me posted: http://beautifulcalamity.blogspot.com
Oh Mandy. I wish I knew exactly the right words to send you. Please at least know that I'm here, feeling your pain and sadness. You are not struggling alone. And, I love you, sweetie.
Sorry you are feeling so bad today. I know how you feel. Just know that many, many people have been where you are and have gotten 100% better. Changing is very hard, but it is worth it. *Hugs*
Mandy, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling like this.
Big hugs babe. I hope that things feel better soon.
Tash x x x
Hi, there, I need help! on how to approach a bulimic person, and help them or help them get help without hurting they feelings. Iam 30 years old, have a 20 year old niece, and I just discover that she is bulimic,( but she does not know it yet) I had a baby six months ago, and she is supposed to go to school, and help me out with the baby. she has the perfect body, young and strong, and since she came to stay with me, i noticed that one of my bathrooms has clogged, ( hers ) I really do not know where to start, and how to approach her with this. without her getting annoyed, embarrased.and defensive.
Please give me your point of view, she is been living with me for less than 2 months now, her mom is my cousing, and she lives in Europe. I am her nly and legal guardian. I need some keywords, in order to make her understand that she needs help. and i would do anything to help her get and feel better. thank you very much.
You are not alone in you agony...I have been struggling with this disease for almost OMG...14 years!!! Saying OMG because I just realized that it has actually bee that long. I almost 28 and the B/P cyle started when I was 14. However I really think the bulimic symptoms started when I was 9...That's when I started dieting. I see you have written about back pain...My lower back has been KILLING me lately! Sometimes it hurts so bad I can hardly walk! Do you think this has anything to do with the Bulimia? I also see that you are taking Prozac. I just start about two weeks ago...My doc gave me 20mgs...I read a study where Bulimics were given 60mgs and it helped. How many mgs are you on?
I also want to say thank you for sharing your experience with this devastating disease...It can be an exremely lonely existence, I know.
Ms. A
Mandy! I am here for you. Whatever you might need. I am here to support you and listen to you. I would never judge you! Please lean on me. You may think you are doing terrible, but what I see in you is someone who is tired of struggling. We all get that way. Some times we need to pass to buck onto another person....to lean on them for support. I am here for you. email me, call me, send me messages online whatever. You are worth so much to this world. I see strenght in you. I mean you have made it this far right? You are still with us right> You haven't given up!!!!! You are still fighting. That shows strength. I say, therefore, that you are not doing as badley as you think. You look like a pillar of strenght to me, like a survivor. Channel some of that my dear!!!!!
xoxo
Sole
Also to Sarah:
Thank you for wanting to help your niece. Your concern and support means you are one more person out there fighting this. That is incredible. You are a positive and important presence in this world.
As for approaching your niece:
What kind of relationship do you have with her? Can you ask her if she is making herself sick?
Can you ask her if she is sad?
If you do have that kind of open relationship I have one piece of advice....let her tell you she is throwing up. Don't define it for her. DOn't ask her if she has an eating disorder or if she is makling herself vomit. Let her define it.
You should definatly bring up the fact that you have noticed she is acting differently that before and that you are concerned and there for her, but try to to fixate on things lik weight loss, eating and apperances. Let her navigate this. LEt her know you know things are not good for her and that you are there, but let her deciode what to tell you. Forcing her or trapping her will only delay recovery. Be there fore her.....uncondiitionally. Let her decide. It is afterall her life.....have some resources avaliable for her when you talk to her, just give them to her. Then wait.
If she is very very ill you might want to consider talking to her parents:)
Good luck
Soledad
Hola, Sole
thank you sooo much, for your kind words, it is amazing how a different perspective can make you look at things differently, i really appreciatte your advice, although i did already approach her 2 days ago, I explained her that I was suspecting that something was wrong, that she needs to let me know if she is sad, for beeing here in america or she wants to go back home, and i told her to take her time in giving me an answer, regarding the eating isuue, I undertand that the first reaction to any news is total denial, and I know that's the stage she in now, however I hope that she will lean on me, as I told her, that no problem is too big or small, whatever is it, that she can count on me. whenever she is ready. I am really scared that, she will get very sick, I mean i have been reading alot about the subject, and the consecuences are pretty scary. thank you very much. any advice is always welcome. Mandy hang in there ! my thoughts are with you.and take care of yourself and your bodies' because we only have one body"
Mandy, we MISS you!!! Please update and I hope you are doing well. Email me if you don't feel like updating. Hope to hear from you soon :)
I'm from the other part of the world and I fight the same battle as you.. and I kwon that we'll gonna make it!
Today, right now is the perfect moment to change are life
(((Mandy))) don't give up! I can't say much that won't sound trite...but we are here for you
today i'm feeling really bad too and therefor i came to the internet to look for someone that could make me realize that i'm not alone. i know so well how you feel...that i just can wish you good luck. sometimes i have the stupid hope that some divine force will make all this dissapear, but it didnt happen so far. tomorrow is a new day and i hope tht you and i will be able to have a big smile on the outside as well as in the inside.
don't give up*
i'm having a real problem with my bulimia at the mo and my whole life is fallling apart; relationships, friendships, my body are all being sacrificed. but i dont want to stop because i dont knnow what else i could do.. and while its going on i enjoy it, its only after i hate it. i've tried to get help and have been told by a number of doctors they dont know what to do with me which just makes me feel like a freak. i'm sorry to ramble, but i feel like i drowning with no hope of salvation.
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